The Art of the Facebook Friend Request

It’s creepy to friend request someone a generation younger than you.  I mean, really really creepy.  Don’t do it.  Then you are a creep.

I learned this early in my social media life.  Years ago, when Facebook became an athletic department nemesis, our Director of Athletics gathered the entire department in a large classroom and explained that each coach needed to get on Facebook and see the pictures their student athletes posted and tagged.  14 of our 16 sports had pictures tagged which, if not an NCAA violation, were a violation of our code of behavior. 

They were given one week to clean things up and staff was asked to set up an account and poke around, as well.  I set my account up then forgot about it.  About a month before my son was graduating from high school I got my first friend request.  It was from his best friend.  I only knew because I got an e-mail about his request and that he wrote on my wall.  My wall?

I accepted and took a peek at my account but still had no idea how it really worked.  Within a week at least 20 of his friends requested me and I accepted them all.  My son thought it was the strangest thing and did not want to have any part of me being on Facebook.  I totally respected his feelings and never EVER asked him to include me.  This was his world and I did not want to interfere.

The kids included me in conversation and when they went away to school they kept in touch with a quick post or tag.  Sometime first semester my son requested me and I enjoy being a part of this world. 

Here are my rules:

            I never request anyone a generation younger than me.  That includes my cousin’s kids, my son’s friends and kids in the neighborhood.  If they want me in their timeline they request me.  I am pleased to say I have developed wonderful relationships with many of the “cousins” and respect their invitations by not stalking their wall.

            Unless they are close personal friends, I do not request any co-workers.  I think it is important to recognize that relationships at work are not the same as relationships outside of work. 

            If I do not recognize a name (especially a female who chooses not to use her maiden name) and we have no friends in common, I ignore.  Linkedin and Twitter are the professional me.  Facebook is a peek inside my living room.  I don’t open my door to strangers.  

That little icon pops up and gives me a burst of excitement every time.  Who will it be?  Is it someone I haven’t heard from in years?  High school?  College?  I can hardly wait to click the little red icon and see who it is…

Life is good!


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Who’s Idea Was It to Tweet Famous People’s Quotes, Anyway?

I’ll admit it; I’m in a cranky mood right now.  What’s with all of these famous people quotes?  The more followers you have the more famous people quotes.

Every time I read something about how to be a good and generous Tweeter, gurus will tell you to add value to folk’s timeline.  They say: be yourself, don’t try to sell all of the time and Tweet interesting quotes.  Really?

Let’s say you are using Twitter to make valuable connections and hope to market your product or service to folks who will benefit.  Think of Twitter as a great big cocktail party.  Here is what a famous people Tweeter would sound like at a party:

@You: Hi @FamousPeopleQuotes! It’s nice to meet you.  Tell me something about yourself.

@ FamousPeopleQuotes!: “Till I was 13, I thought my name was “”Shut Up.””””” Joe Namath

@You: Wow, Shut UP? That must have been rough!

@FPQ: “You can do one of two things; just shut up, which is something I don’t find easy, or learn an awful lot very fast which is what I tried to do.” Jane Fonda

@You: Well, shutting up is helpful sometimes but I am glad to hear you learned a lot fast. Good for you!

@FPQ: Friends are the sunshine of life. John Hay

@You: Friends are great! So, what brings you to this party? Are you friends of the host?

@FPQ: “Only enemies speak the truth; friends and lovers lie endlessly, caught in the web of duty.” Stephen King

@You: Wow – I can really see why they invited you!

@FPQ: Let me tell you how to increase your friends by a million in 15 minutes without ever even meeting them, OK?

@You, talking to yourself – I just wasted two minutes of my life I can never get back.

Don’t be @FamousPeopleQuotes!

Life is good!


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